You men should read "For Men Only" by Jeff Feldhahn. Or, "Men Are Like Waffles, Women Like Spaghetti". It would help you to understand us and why we do some of the things we do, and why we cannot help doing some of the things we do no matter how much pain we cause ourselves...and you.
I just don't understand any of them, and in my opinion, that's the way it's supposed to be.
I'll always have wine and cigars!
We don't need to read a book to comprehend why your behavior is self-destructive. You want attention and you want testicles, but God deprived you of both, so you want to vent on the nearest object, which is usually a man trying to be compassionate. On Family Feud, they asked 100 men "If you were stranded for the rest of your life on a desert island, would you rather it be with a man or a woman?" 85% said a man. They then asked the same question of 100 women, and 85% of the women said "A man." When women don't even want to be around women, don't tell us we need to read a book.
Here is a page from a book written by a leading female expert on men. http://www.amazon.com/SCUM-Manifesto-Valerie-Solanas/dp/1873176449
She wrote S.C.U.M. (Society for cutting up men) Manifesto
"His responses are entirely visceral, not
cerebral; his intelligence is a mere tool in the service of his
drives and needs; he is incapable of mental passion, mental
interaction; he can't relate to anything other than his own physical
sensations. He is a half dead, unresponsive lump, incapable of
giving or receiving pleasure or happiness; consequently, he is at
best an utter bore, an inoffensive blob, since only those capable of
absorption in others can be charming. He is trapped in a twilight
zone halfway between humans and apes,he is capable of a large array
of negative feelings - hate, jealousy, contempt, disgust, guilt,
shame, doubt- and moreover he is *aware* of what he is and isn't.
Although completely physical, the male is unfit even for stud
service. Even assuming mechanical proficiency, which few men have,
he is first of all, incapable of zestfully, lustfully, tearing off a
piiece, but is instead eaten up with guilt, shame, fear and
insecurity, feelings rooted in male nature, which the most
enlightened training can only minimize; second, the physical feeling
he attains is next to nothing; and, third, he is not empathizing
with his partner, but is obsessed with how he's doing, turning in an
A performance, doing a good plumbing job. To call a man an animal is
to flatter him; he's a machine, a walking dildo. It's often said that
men use women. Use them for what? Surely not pleasure.
Eaten up with guilt, shame, fears and insecurities and obtaining, if
he's lucky, a barely perceptible physical feeling, the male is
nontheless, obsessed with screwing; he'll swim a river of snot, wade
nostril-deep through a mile of vomit, if he thinks there'll be a
friendly pussy awaiting him. He'll screw a woman he despises, any
snaggle-toothed hag, and, furthermore, pay for the opportunity. Why?
Relieving physical tension isn't the answer, as masturbation
suffices for that. It's not ego satisfaction; that doesn't explain
screwing corpses and babies."
Here is a quote from my father. "Ya know son, I can predict 90% of what your mother does before she even does it. I don't know why she does it, but I know she going to do it."