This discussion is symbolic of the trouble we're in. Somebody has called it the "feminization" of America. While in the middle of a war that could decide our future survival, do we have the luxury of quarreling about niceties and not/niceties?
The fight for survival, I suspect, will begin and end with the control of the Republican Party. If conservatives lose, all is lost. Ain't no belly rubbin' going to make the beast roll over and purr. Get used to it.