Goodness! your movie theater experiences sound wierd~
I have gone to the movies for over 40 years as an adult(and many times a week) & have never had a bad experience of any sort that was negative.
At home I have too many detractions to make movie watching enjoyable. As a "mom caregiver" it is never a relaxing time to unwind. The theater does it for me
Maybe you haven't gone to movies in big cities.....smaller environments are probably better!