She is dead on about the 9/11 widows, too.
Of course she is.
But of course she was "harsh" and "judgmental".
The judgmental thing is something even a lot of oh so sophisticated, nuanced and enlightened, "conservatives" soil themselves over.
One minor point:
Ann wasn't writing about "9/11 widows" in general. The comments she made were specifically about the four "Jersey girls". In that respect, I agree with you.
The article (deliberately IMHO) obscures that fact.