That's what confused me. However, even though she may THINK she isn't anyone's property, she is - because she was born Muslim.
Now, does she visit the old 'homestead' with or without a husband, children; she does not say. She does turn off the TV when she knows a personal assault is about to appear - as per mention of Brittany - she does write the letter; and I am assuming the copy VDH has; includes her name and occuppation.