You've established that you've gone to some lengths to keep a tight rein on your fertility, shielding it from others' influence, even within marriage. The question would be why. (Since this is a public forum, the answer would be your business, not mine!)
Best regards, SS
The question might be why, but the answer is definitely that we all have the right (and ability, in this day and age) to make our own decisions about something as big as childbearing. I also married at a comparatively late age (31), and I would guess that most of the people you counsel are younger.
I certainly didn't make decisions about my fertility without any input from my husband; the method I was using was one that could easily be discontinued at any time, and he and I were agreed from the beginning about our "reproductive outlook". I think having a disagreement on such a large issue is not a good indicator, going into marriage.