Don't even start. You don't know my men. They have PLENTY of "self-confidence".
How dare you suggest my father or my husband or cousins will wilt under a little pressure. You know nothing of them, but I was hoping I might get a point across. They are winners, not losers.
Too many of whom you obviously think are "self-confident" (which you obviously equate with macho, just like you equate shyness with cockolded wimp) men are just plain jackasses, too. I can play that game of simplistic synonyms, too.
Methinks you see things in too simple B&W, when there are most definitely shades of gray in personalities. You can't just label every person either "wimp" or "self-confident".
I did not post any such thing. "How dare you?" is the age-old cry of the control freak, so it sounds like you are used to shouting down your men. No wonder shyness appeals to you.
Since I now know what I am dealing with, there is no more to say.