"Well encapsulates" for you, perhaps, but you just lost me.
You seem to've been meeting the WRONG kind of lady, which is to say, not a lady at all. Or are YOU the one keeping a scorecard that goes "this act of politeness should result in such-and-such sacrifice" on her part?
No no no no no. "Keeping score" is what 'players', womanizers, and the otherwise weak-esteemed do. I was just making a meta-reference to where that fine line is between the MetroMan and the CaveMan.