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""My wife," chipped in husband number two, "gives over the whole of the weekend to pursuing what she calls 'me time'."

Nothing new here. Four of us used to play golf. One day, one of the guys announced this would be his last day to play. His wife would be giving birth in a few weeks so he would be busy. Now, that was understandable but he went on that after the baby was born, he would be taking care of the baby on the weekends so his wife could have 'her time'.

We all wished him well.

Considering I was up with a nursing baby for a few months ( times five kids) you can be DAMN sure that my husband wouldn't have been on the golf course on the weekends. I needed to catch up on my sleep!

With two days in the weekend, and several kids and a wife who need attention, spending a day on the golf course just wasn't his priority - thank God.

He picked up other hobbies, tennis, and running, which took up smaller chunks of time. :)

For all the bitching about women on this board, in my community, so many women are golf widows that the weekend is "me-time" for them. Mom and the kids, anyway.

he would be taking care of the baby on the weekends so his wife could have 'her time'.

When I was a young stay-at-home mom with an infant, our son did not sleep for more than short periods at a time. Not only did I not have any "my time", I did not get any sleep! Almost as soon as I dropped off, you guessed it, the baby woke up screaming! This went on for months. As soon as my husband got home from work he wanted to do his own thing and I got no relief. I figured it was my job anyway since I was "stay at home mom" and we couldn't afford outside help. My family was not in the area and I didn't have many friends since we had just moved there. Finally, I got deathly ill from exhaustion and out-of-control respiratory infections because my immune system was so compromised. It took a long time to get back on my feet - and I still got no help. Now if a person has a Nanny or other household help, I think they don't need "their time" on the weekend. But in cases like mine, I really needed time - just to get some sleep! There are cases too where the men want it all their way and the women no say. I chose to stay because I knew my kids would NEVER see their father if I divorced him. They are grown up now and neither of them wants anything much to do with him.