Thank you for your reply.
May I ask what evidence there is that she has "reflexively" gone to the opposite point of view? Her own experience has convinced her that what she has done was destructive for her. But if she concludes that it was also wrong because God says it was wrong she is subscribing to religious sexual repression?
God gave instructions as to how we are supposed to live our lives. He did not do so because He is a cosmic killjoy, but because He wants what is best for us. He's the one who wrote the operating manual - He wired us. Many people decide that the problems we have when we go contrary to God's guidance are due to "beating ourselves up" over having done something "labeled" as wrong; that if we can let go of our wrongheaded notions of morality we will be A-Ok.
But that is the very point of this article. She was RAISED without those cumbersome notions. She lived unfettered by those "silly" religious constraints. When it was all said and done she came away unfulfilled.
There can only be one conclusion: it must have been the constraints of society that poisoned her mental freedom. In the name of separation of church and state anything said against whatever "two consenting adults" want to do must be branded as hate speech. /sarc (Hey, it works for the gays)
There are a lot of religious traditions in the Western world that teach against wanton sex, but the Catholic faith tradition is among the very most restrictive. When I read her words, she reminds me of a rabid ex-smoker. I've observed that people who are trying to get away from something, and pick it's exact opposite, when there is a range of choices in between, then proselytize about it to get others on their bandwagon, are acting reflexively.
My toddler likes honey. He knows that bees make honey. So when he comes across a beehive, he makes a beeline for it. I grab him, slap him on the wrist, and say, "No!"
The child sees me as a villian, but I'm really acting as a loving father.
Similarly, our Father in heaven warns us against extra-marital sex. But we see only the pleasurable aspect of extra-marital sex, not the less obvious dangers associated with it. So we see God as a villian, rather than the loving Father that he is.