Hey Kids! Want Good Sex? Try Abstinence.
I'm more than happy to agree that not spreading yourself around like some kind of pass-around pack of Cracker Jack is a better way to find self-respect. I wholeheartedly agree that young people's decisions about when and whom with to have sex is much more likely to be wrong than right.
But expecting people to go from a state of complete abstinence, to a state of complete sexual fulfillment as soon as the marriage license is filed, is just plain wrong. Like learning how to drive, we are going to make a few mistakes along the way, until we get signed off by that DMV examiner.
Frankly, letting sixteen year olds drive makes about as much sense as letting them engage in sexual behavior with each other...
I disagree, I think the act of learning, sharing, and exploring is more than enough to warrant the learning experience. Using your driving example, learning to parallel park can be a blast, a fender bender can be great fun, and waiting for your next "driving lesson" can be enjoyable.
There is no such thing as perfect sex IMHO... but there is such thing as two people learning together, the memories are worth it in itself. Memories that otherwise would be lost from taking lessons outside of marriage.