Well, there you go; Good call. Women aren't wired to think and feel this way, she just hasn't visited the right shrink yet. Perhaps in the yellow pages under "Rationalization Assistance", hmmm?
I particularly like your very first statement. Did you really think about that one before you wrote it or did you just expect to try to make sense of it later? Good luck with that, btw.
Well, there you go; Good call. Women aren't wired to think and feel this way, she just hasn't visited the right shrink yet. Perhaps in the yellow pages under "Rationalization Assistance", hmmm?
I particularly like your very first statement. Did you really think about that one before you wrote it or did you just expect to try to make sense of it later? Good luck with that, btw.
Good point on that first statement, it was early, and I admit, after a couple cups of coffee and some stimulating discussion here with fellow FReepers, I should have clarified the statement.
Yes, what we do matters, but what we do from here on in will not change that past, we can only try to make sense of our behavior in ways that allow us to not beat ourselves up for it in the present, and to give us the strength to go forward in ways that are true to ourselves. That's what I should have said. Good call.
No, she doesn't need to find her previous behavior "OK", she just needs some tools to figure out how to put this in her past, and give her the assurance that she can keep it in the past, without swinging to an opposite point of view reflexively. The AA and such groups give some guidance on this subject. They don't excuse the bad behavior, but the better aspects of them allow people to go on with their lives without being totally wracked by guilt.