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Isn't that the definition of moral relativism?

Probably.

Do you believe that her former lifestyle would be all right so long as she "felt good" about it?

It's too late to turn back the clock on what happened. What matters now is how you deal with it. You can either plunge into the exact opposite behavior, and proselytize it, or you can simply get some help from a friend or counselor, and just figure out how to forgive yourself for it, and go on with life, making better choices in the future. If Dawn has found a lifestyle that now suits her and makes her feel better, doesn't that fit your relativistic philosophy?

Sure, it does. She can pick any religion she wants to follow, with whatever beliefs it still retains.

Why do you resent her choice? Just because she has written a book that contradicts your own choices?

As a matter of fact, I did the same stupid thing myself some years ago (well, not the book). I thought I had a drinking problem (got a ticket on the way home from a party thrown by the boss), and joined the Bahai faith to "deal" with it. After awhile, I realized that the Bahai faith is just 'Islam lite', and started taking responsibility for making better choices when I drink. I see her doing the same thing, and while people here are willing to pile praise on her, I'm willing to discuss the other side of it.

If my discussions have made you think, then that's all I ask, if not, then feel free to ignore me. I learn far more from people I disagree with, than from people who agree with me.

That is a thoughtful answer. I guess I saw your response as one that faulted her feelings as opposed to her actions as the problem, and your seeming antipathy to religion. One bad experience with religion doesn't invalidate all religions.

Further, her choice of religion may be what is needed for her circumstances. While she seems quite extreme in her attitudes now about intimacy, that may be what she needs to avoid casual sex, in the same manner that an alcoholic must avoid all alcohol because of his or her past abuse. I don't see her as expecting everyone to follow her example, even if she wrote a book about it.

Thanks for your respectful response. I, too, learn a lot from people with whom I disagree. That's why I hang out on Free Republic.

Your insight about your drinking problem is interesting. I suspect Ms. Eden's experience taught her that she went too far, too fast, with too many men, because she had a tendency to escalate quicky from kissing to the kinds of caresses that are practically foreplay. So for awhile at least, she has to slow down and re-calibrate her responses.

I know, myself, that I don't like kissing people I don't love, and if I do love them in the sense of being hungry for them (I'm thinking back to my single days) --- kissing made me a lot hungrier.