I think that is what I find so offensive about many of the "Uber Freepers" (I think that was Bonnie's term). They always like to think they are ooooooohhhhh sooooooohhhh above everyone else. I always try to think, "There but for the grace of God go I." My kids are from a stable, loving, two-parent home. They are all straight-A students and are constantly praised by their teachers and principals. Until they hit 13, they were never allowed to go anywhere on their own. I still think this could have just as easily happened to any of my sons and, while I would like to think they would try to contact me, I can't say for sure that they would. None of us knows what our kids would do for certain.
Soccermom...you have very clearly articulated my own thoughts about this whole incident...thanks for saying what you have said, I agree completely with you...
When people start blaming the victim, for something over which he had no control, and when people actually start imagining to themselves, that they know exactly how the victim should have acted in a particular situation, I am appalled...
And your last sentence says it all...you said..."None of us knows what our kids would do for certain"...truer words could not be spoken...you can teach your children how to react in certain given situations, and pound it into their heads how they should act in any given situation, but until your own child is actually in that same situation, there is no way to know how they will act...one likes to believe that a child will react as they have been taught, but what one wants to believe that their child will do, and what the child actally will do, are two separate things, which may bear no ressemblance to one another...
I find blaming the victim, a child, to be quite appalling...