If you are going into a country which has been used as a staging area for terrorists (and how do you fight an ideology, anyway? Who and where do you attack?), you DO fight it as we did Japan, who were the nearest equivalent to what we're fighting now... you break the will of the "host" country to provide them support. You make it PERSONAL to the country and its leadership. Remember Moammar Khaddafi? Remember how quick he stopped supporting terrorists after we made it PERSONAL to him what the price would be? He really did stop for a LONG time... then even gave up his nuke program after 9-11, because he didn't want to be on the hitlist. What's so hard about that?
I really do hate to break this to you but we've found our enemies in this country...should we carpet bomb Toledo?
We've found them in Canada. Nuke Vancouver?
We've found them in London. Time to send some cruise missile to Piccadilly Circus.
I think the Urban League or America would prefer we not use your manual of war.