I'm sorry, but you're not making sense.
Let me try again. Torie (and presumably Romney) thinks that gays should be allowed into the scouts, but in the end, irrespective of what I favor, or what he, Romney, favors, the scouts should make that call, not me, and should not be punished or coerced if they make a decision with which I disagree, because they are private organization, that does great work. Is that helpful to you?
I am not suggesting Romney agrees with me. I think he favors civil unions, not gay marriage. There is a difference, a practical as well as symbolic difference, mostly fiscal ones at the federal level, regarding the application of federal benefits, and burdens.