Don't ever let this principle take root in your kids. There are numerous things you can do that you should not let your kids do, and rightly so. 
Posted on 01/09/2007 12:21:16 PM PST by Paddlefish
About one in three parents in the United States and Canada do not think their methods of disciplining their children work well, according to a U.S. study.
Dr. Shari Barkin, at Tennessee's Monroe Carell Jr. Children's Hospital at Vanderbilt found 31 percent of about 5,000 parents surveyed said they 'never' or 'sometimes' perceived their methods to be effective.
Many of those reported turning into their own parents when it came to discipline, with 38 percent using the same methods their own parents used on them as children.
'It was surprising to see how many parents feel that disciplining their children is ineffective,' Barkin said in a telephone interview.
'Many are using the same techniques their parents used on them but don't think they really work.'
The study, based on a survey of parents through community based doctors in 32 U.S. states, Puerto Rico and Canada, found the most common form of discipline was using time-outs, with 45 percent of parents using this method.
It found 41.5 percent of parents removed privileges, while 13 percent reported yelling at their children, and 8.5 percent reported the use of spanking 'often or always.'
'But we strongly suspect that both yelling and spanking might be underreported,' said Barkin, whose study is published in the January issue of the journal Clinical Pediatrics.
'We know when parents perceive their methods are not working. As a third reported, then emotions can quickly escalate.'
She said by the time children reached the six to 11-year-old age range, parents were about 25 percent less likely to report using time-outs and spanking as they were with younger children.
When children reached school age, parents reported a heavier use of taking away privileges and yelling.
But even in the older age range, perception that the discipline might not be working persisted.
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Great billboard ! and true...
Effective discipline starts with Mom at the earliest of ages. Then Dad, if available, usually does a better job in the later years but Mom still can't turn into a weenie or she'll get walked over.
I have seen a lot of single moms do a very good job of discipline. Look at all the inner-city kids who speak glowingly of their mom or grandma as a strong influence on their positive outcome.
Yes, Dads are necessary but if one is not available, Mom needs to do it.
OK, I'm with you then.
["You know you're not supposed to do X. You can knock it off right now and everything will be fine, or you can keep doing it, and get punishment Y." As the oldest, I felt it my duty to test them. I tested away. I ALWAYS got punishment Y.]
Same here. My three younger siblings should be forever grateful to me for being the pioneer who showed them what to do... and what not to do.
:^)
A third of the American public doubts everything and everything because that is what they were taught to do in public school and they have never learned to accept reality for what it is, instead thinking that reality is whatever they want it to be.
Don't ever let this principle take root in your kids. There are numerous things you can do that you should not let your kids do, and rightly so.
Look at the context. We're talking about discipline; right and wrong. Kids are able to see though the BS of hypocrisy pretty easily, and they rebel against it.
Yes, there are lots of things grown-ups do that kids shouldn't, but they must live up to the basic "rights and wrongs" if they expect their kids to. (Telling the truth, respecting others, avoiding physical violence, etc.)
There's a clear difference between telling your child that he's too young to drive a car, but you can, and telling your child that it's bad to steal, then shoplifting his birthday present. Kids understand that difference, and so do you.
I agreee that clear, consistant, fair rules need to be communicated with eye contact.
Nothing worked better with my two boys. I would call them by their first name, get their attention, tell them to look at me, I would look them directly in the eye, and let them know exactly...in clear terms, what I wanted them to do or to stop doing, and end with "Do you understand?".
This still works today with my younger 16 year old son.
If God be for us, who can be against us?
--Romans 8:31 KJV
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