[L98Fiero]

"Many gay men are fed up with people who want to tell them how to behave, and they side with the community they know."

I read this as, "Gay men want to be the only group who is immune to moral judgement by society so they hang around with people who make no moral judgements at all."

[A message]

You read it correctly.

[workerbee]

But many have told him it is difficult to meet other gay men outside of sexual encounters or to connect on an emotional or friendship level. "Over and above, people were saying they really have this longing for a sense of community (and) that they feel everything is fractured, that everybody is paranoid, and nobody is having fun," he said.

So, all these "gay" men have realized that their lives are unfulfilled, they have no normal emotional relationships and no sense of place. WHO CAN BE SURPRISED BY THIS?? When you define yourself by a deviant behavior, what exactly do you expect??