There are many who agree with you, for the other seems a more difficult and less kind path by temporal standards.
CERTAINLY, imho, the Godly standard is TRUTH IN LOVE.
But most folks are so battered and bruised by abusive parenting . . . the last thing they need is an abusive Christianity/church/religion.
And God knows that. He's as fed up with such churches and Christianity more than the abused folks, imho.
YES--CHRIST AND HIM CRUCIFIED. TAKE UP ONE'S CROSS DAILY; DENY SELF ETC. ETC. ETC.
HOLY SPIRIT is well able and willing to lead folks into such maturities . . . in His ways and His time.
Why not introduce them to DADDY and get some healing started FIRST! Sheesh.
I'm not interested intemporal standards.
I'm interested in hooking folks up with Jesus.
And so is RW.