Men go to war to win.
Women got to war to participate.
Nothing like a sweeping generalization!
Men and women join the military for a variety of reasons-patriotism, to gain skills, to use skills, to do something really cool like fly jets or spacecraft, because they don't know what to do after high school, because they don't know what to do after college, because bad guys attacked their country and they're hopping mad, etc., etc., etc. There are as many reasons for being in the military and staying in the military as there are people in the military.
To say that men want to win while women just want to be there is ridiculous.
Women don't volunteer to leave their homes and families, go live in uncomfortable conditions, work ungodly hours at extremely stressful jobs with little or no margin for error for substandard wages and have the added bonus of risking their lives doing it just to be able to say, "I was there."