My heart goes out to the young lady who wrote this article.
My 13 year old daughter was told three years ago by her mother, my ex-wife, that I was not her biological father. While I was aware of the indiscretion that resulted in the pregnancy, I never though of my daughter as anything else. The emotional damage that has been done by revealing the facts of her conception has had devastating and long reaching consequences. I can only imagine how diminished a child would feel to know that her father was syringe.
My heart goes out to you and your daughter.
It is amazing that mothers, who wouldn't think of not putting a seatbelt on their child, or let them ride a bike without a helmet these days, etc, could so wilfully ignore the mental health of their child.
Hang in there, Harry. I had a"mother of choice", who supplemented the "mother of origin" in very important ways. Both of our lives would have been diminished without this mutual, informal adoption of one another when I was in my 30s with a small child and she in her 60s going through her husband's last illness and death. Keep contacting your daughter and do everything to let her know that real love is transcendent. Your faithfulness as a protective father can help her understand that people from two different families and biologies must meet on spiritual grounds in order to marry and carry on the human race.