Well, she might be called selfish by you and the author, but he is here.
His choice at this point is to decide to live a good life and quit whining about his origins. He has life, that seems to be something to be grateful about.
None of us, with few exceptions, have had perfect lives. many people grow up without fathers. Many people have selfish mothers.
This Dude needs to get over his whining and move on.
Not gonna disagree with you.
Reading comprehension: "this dude" is a woman.