When we joined is irrelevant to the discussion of what is best for children. Besides my child-rearing experiences, I also did a graduate thesis in the 90s on U.S. family law and social policy; how would our sign-up dates at FR have anything to do with determining our relative ability to comment on family policy and sociology in the United States?
I'm not wasting breath on the libertarian hard-heartedness here to make myself happy or unhappy; rather, I am advocating for the needs of children, which were regarded as essential by our Founders -- that children would be raised properly in order to perpetuate a free republic. (On the Founders' intentions for marriage as an integral part of a republic by scholar Kay Himowitz of City Journal.)
Children need parents who are capable of selflessness and sacrifice, financial productivity, cooperation, long-term planning, stamina, and willingness to see it through. That's why societies have supported a marriage institution and why marriage extracts promises for the future as part of its covenants between the individual and society. People who ignore their marital promises offload the burden of their children onto the rest of society.
And thirdly, if as you say, you titled yourself "born", presumably as a conservative or a FReeper during the Clinton administration, does your rage at Clinton's behavior still exist? If so, why is this author's disappointment in her father's behavior constitute unacceptable "whining"?
I am advocating for the needs of children, which were regarded as essential by our Founders -- that children would be raised properly in order to perpetuate a free republic.
That's a bunch of self-righteous malarkey. How do you know...maybe a single woman who has IVF will get married a couple of years later and create your idea of an 'ideal' family. She must have money because the procedure is expensive! Who are you to say she wouldn't raise the child "properly"? There are plenty of kids from two parent homes who have nobody who gives a crap about them, and they weren't even wanted in the first place! Your thesis, generalizations, and statistics forget about one major fact...people are INDIVIDUALS, not cookie-cutter fodder for sociology textbooks. It is INDIVIDUALS who make this a free republic.