I am sincere in wanting to discuss this (though maybe not here ;) ).
I will say this. Once I decided I would pose these questions to a very famous, articulate, erudite and open member of the gay community, who shall remain unnamed here.
She kindly answered my questions in a public forum--sort of. First, she said nothing in response to my questions as they applied to lesbians.
As to homosexual men, she more or less agreed with the irony inherent in the situations/dynamics I pointed out, she did not go so far as to engage my actual question, that is, why do homosexuals, as a community and as individuals, organize themselves into "male" and "female" members and then go about engaging in "male-female" relationships, the antithesis, supposedly, of what homosexuality is said to be about?
I admire the person I asked greatly for her intellect and honesty. So I have oftened what to make of the fact that she took on my question and actually engaged it without defensiveness or rancor, but still managed to avoid addressing its import.
Wow. That's great... and rare. It's too bad other gay or pro-gay folks cannot respond in such a manner...
Your overly wordy post really says nothing.