You chose to write a VERY long post to me - that did not in any way threaten me - but was not relevant to my belief system. In others words it was essentially a rude thing to do. That's why I asked the question - does it even occur to you to ask or do you just assume your world view is of interest to everyone?
Monogamy is usually based on ownership-the woman sells her services to the man in return for security for herself and her children-and is entirely bound up in the man's idea of property furthermore in our society the monogamous couple, with or without children, is an isolated, shut-in, up-tight unit, suspicious of and hostile to outsiders. And though we don't lay down rules or tell gay people how they should behave in bed or in their relationships, we do want them to question society's blueprint for the couple. The blueprint says 'we two against the world', and that can be protective and comforting.
But it can also be suffocating, leading to neurotic dependence and underlying hostility, the emotional dishonesty of staying in the comfy safety of the home and garden, the security and narrowness of the life built for two, with the secret guilt of fancying someone else while remaining in thrall to the idea that true love lasts a lifetime-as though there were a ration of relationships, and to want more than one were greedy. Not that sexual fidelity is necessarily wrong; what is wrong is the inturned emotional exclusiveness of the couple which students the partners so they can no longer operate at all as independent beings in society. People need a variety of relationships in order to develop and grow, and to learn about other human beings.
Whew, what a relief - they admit that sexual fideltity isn't ALWAYS wrong.
On a forum such as this? Ummm, let me think.......
Nope.Never.
Not for one second
Not even one time.
Come to think of it, it has never ever crossed my mind since I joined here in 1998.
Has it ever occurred to you what the purpose of this place is?