Ahh - good. So as long as long as there is no physical harm rape is a-ok. Where in the world did you get that definition? Be careful... with that structure you are placing a lot of responsibility on people to restrain themselves regarding things that are not illegal, but are unacceptable - old definitions and all, don't cha know.
A rape is harm.
Don't be such a brick.
What harm is caused by me not wearing a seatbelt?