Working a forty hour work week is different from becoming a PTA mommy and baking cookies.
'Cuz y'know working a forty hour week and letting the illegal alien nanny raise your kids = GOOD
And becoming a PTA mommy and baking cookies = BAD
S'matter with you?!
Get your degree; kick ass at your profession; be a professional and make a squillion dollars, but please don't have kids.
The poor little buggers would suffer.
You're about 22-23 aren't you?
22 y/o girls.... The smartest creatures on the face of the earth. Man's laws; The laws of physics and even God's Laws don't apply to them--they know it all.
Just ask them....
Do you know why moms bake cookies? It's to make our kids happy and to teach them how to cook. It is a lot more rewarding to bake cookies with my kids than anything I ever did in the work force.
(By the way, my last year of work I was rewarded as one of the top 20 employees at my work. I was one of only 2 women rewarded. My husband worked at the same company and never got this reward.)
It doesn't sound like you want to do anything maternal which is fine. However, you talked about having kids even if you hadn't found a mate.
If you don't like to cook, bake cookies, be in the PTA, clean, etc, then don't be a mom. These days women do have choices, and they don't need to be a mom to have a satisfying life.
By the way, baking cookies is a lot more fun than dragging your kid to a birthday party at Chuck E. Cheese.
We went to a birthday party for a kid of a single mom at my husband's work. That kid was so messed up. Most of the time he slept in the same room with his mom. The party seemed like an adult party. Most of the people were adults except for my kids (who barely knew the kid). He had 1 friend from daycare at the party. There were no activities for the kids, just grown up food and then a cake. My kids commented about how strange the party was and they were only like 5 & 7.
Just don't bring a kid into this life if you don't want to spend time with him doing kid related activities. It's an okay thing to not have kids.
Either that or marry a guy that loves doing things with kids. My brother was the stay at home dad. He never worked. He battled cancer, but he was never than ambitious. He loved kids, and he was very involved in his kids lives. His wife is a VP of a company, and is very ambitious. They were married for over 25 years, and had a great marriage. He died 2 years ago, after he raised 2 wonderful kids.
You might be interested in this thread. It's about women who choose to be childless. There are several freepers who have decided not to have children replying. You might want to check it out.
http://www.freerepublic.com/focus/f-news/1745283/posts