I know that... This is what I'm pointing out. If I can't find a desirable partner, I'd consider having a baby alone. If I do by some miracle get married, I'm still going to go to work as I don't like housework and being a PTA mommy. However, many people on this board do believe that there's only two choices... Be a stay at home mom and make pot roast ala Donna Reed or be a cat lady. I find it abhorrent that some people still hold this view and spending lots of time arguing with them.
See, I don't think you really do. You consistently frame issues in terms of a self serving outcome on one hand, and a clearly undesirable outcome as the other. From reading your posts, I think that you feel you "know that," but there is no real evidence besides your assertion that you do.
I hope you do, but I just don't see it. To be fair, I'm only evaluating based on your posts. I don't know you so maybe you do know better. I will say you have not communicated it well at all.
However, many people on this board do believe that there's only two choices.
You are the once who consistently frames things with this immature, either.or dynamic. While there may be some on the board who believe it's limited to one of two choices, they are wrong. The thing you fail to realize is that while rightfully pointing out that they are wrong, that you are wrong also. That just makes you both wrong - your analysis is as sucky as theirs. If you take some satisfaction in that, enjoy.
Do yourself a favor, and talk to as many single moms as you can before you opt for single parenthood. It's not about being a "PTA mommy", but the myriad of activities that kids involve themselves in, whether it be dance, sports, you name it. You will owe it to your child(ren) to be actively involved in their lives.
God forbid your child not share your passion for education (lol)! My daughter is doing quite well in college, while my son has been a marginal student. He will be attending a local community college until he proves that he can handle the requirements of a 4 year college.
Beware! Babies are messy, and demanding. Please don't wear expensive clothing while burping the "ankle biter", lest he/she spit up several ounces of formula on you. Demanding? You can count on your baby waking up in the middle of the night BEFORE an important presentation.
I wish you well in your endeavors.
BTW, since you expressed a preference for wine tasting, I strongly recommend a trip to the Mosel River Valley in Germany, particularly during the summer months. You'd be able to enjoy any of several wine fests from Trier to Koblenz. Great wine, and very friendly people. Prosit!