No modern woman has enough time to cook a pot roast for a weekday meal in today's world, whether or not they stay at home.
Well I can. I guess I got all those successful, modern women beat? Considering I wasn't even trying, that speaks volumes for their 'capability.' And I'm a man, so in terms of 'ideals' and conventional expectations, I shouldn't be accomplished in the kitchen at all.
I think what you define as the 'ideal' is indeed real in some folks' minds and I don't agree with it, but it need not be limited to this 'ideal.' I don't despise it at all - everyone finds their own path. I think to the extent that you are fixated on this artificial limitation, your reactions tend to be exaggerated - using words like despise and abhor. Strong words, and not really appropriate here. Certainly a more even tempered reaction keeps thinking clearer and more balanced, and not upset the balance of mind that I find to be a good thing.
Men can demand what they want, and so can women. All they need to find is a compatible mate. Not millions, just one. And maybe not you. That's fine. You are free to cultivate your life anyway you like. So are other women. And you may arrive in different places. I consider that good.
Indeed, you consistently come across as more narrow minded rather than broad minded, at least on this thread. That's probably because you have attached to much emotion despising and abhorring things.
While I am basically sympathetic to your message, you really come across poorly in the presentation. Anybody who is animatedly hostile to you needs to relax. Please consider that you need to relax, also. And mature. That can come with time, or it can never come. It's really up to you.
So while your argument is basically valid, have the flexibility and maturity to know that people are free to not buy what you are selling. Rational people can look at the same dynamics and facts and rationally come to different conclusions.
I tend to think that while on one hand you like the idea of people having more choices than ever, you don't like the idea that they came to different conclusions as you did. That's a fundamental flaw in your world view, and probably your self image. It can be corrected with wisdom and time, though. Oh maybe never. As long as you're happy, that should be good enough for you. It's good enough for me.