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It's about timing. You can't have children when you are older. I highly recommend having children before 30 because the chances of having miscarriages or fertility problems increases. (I had 3 micarriages before I had my first child at 31.)

If you decide to have children then do it in your late 20s early 30s and stay home with them when they are young. When they go to school, there is plenty of time to work and do your own thing.

Once you decide to have children, then you have to put their needs basically above your own (in most cases).

If you can't do this, then don't have children. Women should be respected if they chose not to have children. I think Condi Rice is a great example of this.

I think my greatest accomplishment is my 3 children. Two of them are gifted and one is special needs. It certainly is not boring. It's much more interesting than when I volunteered to teach in an inner city school, or when I worked writing software for a defense company (really boring).

I'm in my mid-40s now, and I can think about the next phase of my life. My kids don't need me when they are at school. I'm not going back to writing software, but I don't know what to get into. Plus, I have to be home by 3pm so that I can be home when my kids are home.

"It's about timing. You can't have children when you are older. I highly recommend having children before 30 because the chances of having miscarriages or fertility problems increases. (I had 3 micarriages before I had my first child at 31.) "

It's about timing for me as well... As a women, getting an MBA and being pregnant/ having small children don't work well together. Women are still required to put their career aspirations on hold to care for their husbands and children, while men don't have to make the same sacrifice.

"If you decide to have children then do it in your late 20s early 30s and stay home with them when they are young. When they go to school, there is plenty of time to work and do your own thing. "

I work in a female heavy department, and none of my coworkers who has gotten pregnant has been able to stay at home with their children. Most families need both incomes... Moreover, having a five/ six year gap in your work record is going to make it pretty hard for you to jump into the workforce. I've already worked in an entry level job; I chose not to work in another entry level job when I'm in my mid-thirties.

"If you can't do this, then don't have children. Women should be respected if they chose not to have children. I think Condi Rice is a great example of this. "

So basically women who don't want to spend their time making pot roast shouldn't get to have kids??? And this is fair how exactly??

I greatly respect Condi Rice, but she comes from the Baby Boomer Generation in which women could either have careers or have children, not both. Most women in my generation want both and believe that they should have both.