I'd like to know how many cases in the general population are due to unvaccinated, illegal immigrants who bring pertussis with them. You can't tell that as well as how many native refuseniks there are. Check the 2nd link in comment# 1.
Those who thought that having chicken pox better than the vaccine...I do hope you remember that when you come down with shingles later on down the road.
I had shingles before the vaccine was approved for it. Sorry to read about your family.
But if you make the conscious decision to allow a child to get an illness rather than get the vaccine--there are a lot of "bad reactions" to zoster, too.