Their out rage is very selective.
"Outing" has been a practice of Gay Activists for years. Foley himself was outed by Gay activists several years back. "The Advocate" outed Foley. So why are they telling people to call leaders? It's the gay activists they have to be protesting to.
There's probably two groups of gay/lesbians just like there are two political parties: the radical activist gays/lesbians and then the quieter, just live-their-lives gays who want to work with the system. All gays may not think "gay marriage" is a great idea.