I am probably getting married next summer (basically unofficially engaged until we get through pre-engagement counseling), and frankly, I don't want kids for awhile. We both want to wait a bit. I personally would like to wait until I am 30, six years away. While I think having kids would be a rewarding experience, we won't have the money to have them immediately.
I am also a bit selfish. I want some years to be just us. I don't want kids immediately since I want to enjoy my wife and I bein the only ons in the house for the first couple years. I mean, for crying out loud, once we have kids, that is basically a 20-year commitment. Heavens, by the time the kids would be gone, I would be 50!!
That is almost enough to make me want NO kids whatsoever. But, the joy that comes from seeing them grow up has to be worth losing all that time to yourself.
I was 32 when I had my daughter (first child) I was 55 when she married and left home. It doesn't matter how old you are. I will tell you that my kids are the best, most wonderful happenings in my life. Whatever I gave to them I got back ten times. Do it, you really won't regret it.
When I got married eight years ago, I did NOT want kids, and if I had to, just one. About a year into the marriage, the biological clock started ticking and the maternal desire began. It got stronger and stronger as time went by. We were holding off because my husband wanted to get our debt under control. By that time, it was torture to not "try to get pg". I had to wait another year and then we started trying. I con'd almost immediately; and was blest with the most beautiful, affectionate child I could ever imagine having. What a gift from God.
I pray your journey is a happy one, and God bless!!!
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him your plans."