emails and instant messages are not sex...
two males are not sex...
Only a male and female joined in coitus is sex...
Oh wait. You're being serious aren't you. The fact you can attempt to justify this by bringing up those examples shows your desperation to excuse it away.
Sorry, the guy is a pooftah who MAY have attempted to lure minors. I don't see that in ANY way shape or form similar to your examples. The fact that that you do calls your opinions in question.
Somehow I don't think you were so forgiving with Slick Willy.