I am a sometimes resident of Mass and many times resident of NH. Romney appears to me as very efficient, focussed, and somebody who knows how to administrate. I don't know how he'd do "feeling out pain." It's a joke that came from the Clinton years but sometimes very important. Bush had his moments, over 9/11 and with war widows and crippled vets. The question really is: Will Romney or Rudy or Allen or whoever we elect have the strength to send volunteers off to battle, console their families and tell the world why it is necessary? The next President will have to do that a lot I'm afraid.
That is the core of my original assessment in post # 62.
Of the three you named, I feel that Romney is the least prepared to do that.