Here's an analogy that FReepers should be able to follow.
It's the difference Bill Clinton getting a b/j in the Oval Office, being discoverd, and being busted for perjury, versus Bill Clinton getting a b/j in the Oval Office, bragging about it, and facing no punishment.
Does everyone know Clinton is a sleaze? Yeah. Is he open about it. No.
It this really that difficult a concept?
I worry about results, not impressions. The result is no different in either of your scenarios, but they did just show weakness to the enemy.