I'm glad my husband didn't take this person's advice. I was a career woman who quit work to take care of our 3 kids. I think my hubby is pretty happy. We'll be celebrating our 15th anniversary in a few weeks.
I'm also glad my brother didn't take this advice. Shortly after he got married at 22 to a wonderful woman. He started having problems with terrible skin cancer. My brother rarely worked because of the skin cancer. Instead he became a stay-at-home dad, and his wife had a career.
Two years ago, he died at the age of 48 after 25 years of marriage.
His wife stayed by his side and they managed to raise 2 wonderful children. She never complained during the whole time. She is the VP of her company, and her company absolutely loves her.
We have another friend who has been a career woman, also. Her husband died of colon cancer when he was 40, and she was left raising their 3 boys. Since she had a good career, they have never needed anything financially. So far, the boys are turning out great in spite of not having their dad raise them.
Unfortunately, I also know of 2 other women who lost their husbands when they were in their 30s. Their careers also helped them maintain a household and a sense of normalcy for their kids.
It is clear that God put these specific women with these specific men and gave them these specific children. Those women submitted to this mission of God, instead of saying, "I don't care about what God will have me do for my family. I will work!" This selfishness is not to be mistaken for women who truly submit to what is best for their husband and family as led by God.
This is also true of women who have not been blessed by children. People call them selfish and sure some women do not have children for just this reason. But there are also other couples that God will not bless with children and have been led to do his will in other productive, creative and beautiful ways. I being one of them realize that it is not Man's judgment of how other's should live their lives, but that a couple should submit to God's direction for their lives no matter how unpopular or judged.
If I let other conservatives or even liberals dictate that I should be a Mother instead of following God's leading, I would use invitro. Yet, in my heart I know that (invitro) is Man's and the world's solution to my problem, but not God's. He has made it clear children are not my future (unless it is adoption.)
This to me is a dynamic and loving God that takes a special interest in the variable plans for each of us. These selfish career women put many of us on the defensive for conservative values, but the devil uses this understandable abhorrence to obscure that God does not plan for each women to stay at home, but for some to serve in other ways. The devil is a tricky game player. Let's not submit to his machinations.