It's called "a metaphor." And denying your own nature will inevitably lead to unhappiness.
LOL - yes I know it's a metaphor. I used it as well. What I meant, is, I don't *require* encouragement from my wife to go out there and proverbially 'club' something and drag it back to our (bat)cave. I've got plenty of my own drive. Nor do I derive happyness from approval of others, including my wife. I feel honored when commended - but lack thereof will absolutely not lead to my unhappyness.
I understand my own nature well. While I appreciate having company during the ride, I only require exciting goals to achieve, and that's enough.