[mikeus_maximus]

I hear ya. I don't know the reason for your first marriage ending, and I take a very close view of Matthew 19. But I will say this-- psychologists have "discovered" that the #1 need for women in a marriage is love. For men, it's respect. We're hard wired for that way.

We marry someone we hope will appreciate and encourage us on the daily hunt. Women who are sefish or fail to understand that maculine need-- and in our culuture most women do fail in that-- cannot hope to have a sound marriage with any man.

[farlander]

Well I for one don't require encouragement for my daily hunt. And one *earns* and commands respect by their actions.

[what's up]

Love her and not yourself and she'll respect you.

The law of the universe.

[doc30]

We marry someone we hope will appreciate and encourage us on the daily hunt. Women who are sefish or fail to understand that maculine need-- and in our culuture most women do fail in that-- cannot hope to have a sound marriage with any man.

It is true that men have an innate drive to support and sacrifice for someone else. That's why men, emotionally, typically have a harder time emerging from a divorce or breakup. It hits them to the core. Women suffer, too, but in different ways and have different coping mechanisms.