Posted on 09/01/2006 6:00:41 AM PDT by Mr. Brightside
duh.
(just go to any divorce court.)
...well, maybe some of the time...but I can send you info on some of the ugliest divorce battles of all time "that would show you that its..."Right..."...other times..
I just have a hard time believing he would do anything controversial.
Maybe that explains it, they are after my crack.
The poll question should have been. "HOW MUCH OF YOUR HUSBANDS MONEY DO YOU EXPECT TO WALK AWAY WITH WHEN YOU DIVORCE?"
Well, I must admit, that's pretty darned impressive. :-)
Your request to investigate whether we can change nature reminds me of Rush's opinion that those who think man can cause global warming is the height of conceit.
I think what I have to do is to recognize what the nature of the beast is, then try to use that information to my advantage.
Roll with the tides, y'know.
Those are my drinking buddies. ;o)
How do you find the time to post, let alone work, just fending off their advances? ;-)
Leeches or Parasites. I call em as I see em.
Baseball bats. LOL
OK. Try these comments on for size, repeated/screamed hundreds of times over the course of X years of marriage:
"You can't support me!"
"We need my money to live!"
"I am paying for your previous child!" (This is an especially insane comment by a wife to an always very gainfully-employed husband)
"You contributed NOTHING to ME!" (See previous comment.)
Now, granted, the woman in question had some very serious psychological problems (though of course, it was the husband who was 'crazy'), but the fact is that many (most?) women, even if extremely successful, will resent their husband making less money - no matter how successful he is - this last part is truly insane, but true)
The above example is an extreme one, to be sure, but such women do exist and their attitudes destroy marriages. Now, had the husband in question above made an "appropriate" amount of $$$ in that wife's view, they would still be married. If that is not a definition of an insane woman, then there ain't no such thing.
bump
..You say you want a revolution, well I say, you'd better change your head; you tell me its the institution, well, you'd better free your mind instead...
-Beatles
Ya, me too.
It's the only thing than John Kerry and I have in common. Kinda embarrassing.
Ah, I think I see the differentials between your (hypothetical?) experience and my own experience:
1. I didn't expect to be "supported"; I expected to do my part and still do.
2. Yeah, we need my money to live...well. We could live on his salary, but mine makes large savings, investments, and other good things possible.
3. I'm a second wife, but fortunately there were no previous children. The ex-wife wasn't even living any more.
4. "Contributed nothing to me!" I don't even know what this means - as I said earlier, if there are shared goals, then "mine" and "yours" aren't applicable. It's all ours.
"the fact is that many (most?) women, even if extremely successful, will resent their husband making less money - no matter how successful he is -"
Maybe this is changing as the younger generation comes up; I hope so. We're in our early fifties, and it just hasn't been an issue for us. Perhaps this is because our salaries are fairly close to each other. As I said in my previous post, he has now pulled about $15,000 ahead of me, but that's still a pretty small salary difference in the total picture.
I'm sorry your experience was so unpleasant, but I'm not sure I'd extrapolate it as the norm.
LOL
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