[Huntress]

The people who do this stuff rationalize it by saying that Grandma's money is "their inheritance" or that they deserve it because they have done so much for Grandma. And it is a very, very common occurrence.

[YellowRoseofTx]

money is "their inheritance"

This struck a cord with me.....my sister got very upset with my dad over something he bought and told him it was wasteful because he was spending her inheritance. I came unglued about that and told her it was HIS money he'd worked for and it was his right to spend it any way he wanted. There was no "inheritance" until he was gone. After he died, we got the will and found......he'd left everything to me. Cut her out completely.