My deepest sympathy in both of your losses.
My husband's mother lost her first two children, but with him the doctor started her on vitamins and minerals and my husband was born in 1929. Since then much has been learned about optimum nutrition in pregnancy. Of course, I don't know how much care either of you was giving to nutrition, and Katrina was a terrible stressor.
Here are some thoughts if you are not already aware of this information. It is advisable for a woman to optimize her health and nutrition for a year before conception, and six months for the husband so he will have really healthy sperm. An excellent book is "Let's have healthy children", by Adelle Davis. I followed a lot of her advice with both my children, but especially the first. He is now 36, fighting in Afghanistan, and has never had a cavity. At any rate, better success in the future.
Please give your son our love and tell him we are praying for him! I'm a military mom too (daughter just deployed to Iraq)...
Thank you so much for your kind words - I am in my early forties and during both of these pregnancies I was so thrilled to be pregnant. But I was also surprised at the reaction of some of my closest companions when they found out about my pregnancies: I was "too old", I had "no business getting pregnant at my age" - thank God for my husband and my daughter, both of whom were so wonderful to me and made me feel so glad to have my family. Then, of course, we were devastated to lose these precious children.
I am very blessed to have living a daughter, 21, and a son, 8, both of whom are such wonderful blessings to me. I understand that there may never be any other babies for me. But there always will be a cradle in my heart for these unborn, ephemeral children who lived in me if for only a few weeks...
they are my children, too.