We have an eternity to live with God in heaven, after a brief stint on earth where we might suffer many things for the sake of our obedience to God.
The beauty of being a woman in this world is that you are allowed to follow the lead of your husband, and while you obviously will suffer from his stupidity, you will earn rewards in heaven, and in fact God himself will intervene as necessary to make your life bearable on earth as you submit to His plan which involves following your husband.
Many women find that, as they submit to their husbands, their husbands recognize the responsibility they know have, and it really does make everything better. Many husbands have terrible families because the woman has taken the responsibility and the men shirk their duties and the children don't grow up with the appropriate structure.
On a side note, I find it hilarious that right now I'm arguing on the side that is being compared to the Taliban, while over on the "plan b" thread someone is calling me the tool of Satan.
You'll get used to it. On the economics threads I am usually told that my belief in capitalism and free-markets makes me a socialist. Comes with the territory.
Many women also find that the Biblical definition of "submit" has nothing to do with wiping hineys or with rolling over like a doormat every time the husband speaks.
Shalom.