OTOH, it has been suggested that they hate us because they know they are losing the global culture battle to the West. This is a desperate last-ditch effort to save a dying 7th century culture.
Their culture, such as it is, is dying. Most Middle Easterners probably wouldn't miss it, except that was being replaced by a post-Islamic secular void marked only by repression, powerlessness and poverty.
Radical Islam starts to look pretty good at that point, as would any kooky cult with an escapist, self-empowering gradiose theme to it.
Arabs really do marvel at how we live, but they see us as trumpeting democracy while paying dictators to keep them repressed. That does damage any potential relationship we'd have with them.