Are you kidding me? I guarantee a man will find his control if you send him a fat, pimpled bad toothed woman. If you can control your urges when you want then you certainly can control them if you think you may end up paying for 18 years.
A man has control of putting on a raincoat even if he has let himself become some biological screwing machine.
After the deed is done, the man has no control, but the woman does. She can have the baby or not have the baby (and she also had a choice as to whether to use a reliable contraceptive, and in some cases has lied about that to the man). She can alos drink and do drugs while pregnant, permanently damaging the baby, but the man has no control over this. The biological fact is that WOMEN have babies, and this process is in no way comparable to the male contribution. Men can easily become biological fathers without knowing they have done so (not possible for women); and men are capable of impregnanting dozens of women in the time it takes for one woman to have a baby (also not possible for women).