"Maybe we need to reverse the roles in the families, send the wife out to bring the paycheck home and let the man sit at home and take care of the kids and house that way he could study the Bible more."
Well, when they can figure out how men can have babies and nurse them, then I'll listen to your theory.
When I was in the military, women who were in the military had to work right up to the delivery day or when the water broke or something like that.
Of course they were also given the easier jobs and were given so many months off to nurse or whatever and then it was back to work. Babies can suck on bottles just as well as they can breast nipples, and man can change diapers just as well.