[murphE]

Doing the "right thing" for other people when they don't agree that it's the right thing for them is considered impolite, at the least. That's the entire point.

You are not responsible for others bad reactions to your good manners; you are only responsible for how you behave. It is always the right thing to show good manners.

Personally, I think there are more important things to worry about.

I didn't say I was worried, I just said I found it sad that someone is willing to justify not behaving with good manners because it may not be appreciated by everyone.

[AnotherUnixGeek]

It is always the right thing to show good manners.

This is incorrect, or at least incomplete. It is not the right thing to practice "good manners" on another when they don't agree that it is good manners - this is, in fact, the definition of bad manners. Again, this is the entire point of the feminists-and-good-manners thread - that there is no consensus among women on what they find acceptable manners from men.

I just said I found it sad that someone is willing to justify not behaving with good manners because it may not be appreciated by everyone.

Again, without attempting to offend you, I don't think you get the point.