Oh I entirely agree. My Grandmother, my mother and aunts grew up Italian American and were totally prejudiced against certain races whereas I grew up hating any kind of racism. It depends on the generation. I think this whole thing with Allen will blow over although right now. The bad thing that is happening is that it is effecting Allen's Senate poll numbers.
Webb has a mailing out that Rasmussen has a new Virginia poll out with Allen only leading Web by 5% - Allen 47% vs Webb $42%. I can't post the poll because you have to pay now to have access. If it is true it is not good news for Allen.
It's just a bump in the campaign, i wouldn't worry much about it. As for the immigrant thing, yea my parents and their generation aren't very tolerant of outsiders. Their generation flipped out when my cousin married a white guy. If you listened to them it was like the world was ending. Lucky for me and my cousins, we grew up not buying into any of their stuff.
On a more amusing note, my parents have grudginly accepted that i date white women, but my mom tells me she'll disown me if i ever bring home a muslim girl. (pity, such cute persian girls where i live too).