Maybe it's the way children are raised, maybe each child is different. Thank God, believe it or not mine has not broken a single dish or glass, his toys last forever because he treats them with respect. The toys that do get broken are when a particular friend or two comes over and is plain destructive. I don't understand this behavior, I am left baffled why some children are so destructive. They come over and break his stuff. (trust we've had some talks). I make a joke his destructive friends are the only way I can get rid of some of his toys. They add up because they stay in great condition. I have always told him, I understand accidents (spills, etc.),but I don't have tolerance for doing things on purpose. I don't want my son to feel bad if he does something accidently. He's a typical boy, but he has sense. When it comes to traveling - he puts me to shame. I'm the fidgety one...lol.
I think it is a little of both...like most things. Partly natural hardwired personality types and partly upbringing.
Some children have an easier time with some types of limits, and others have a difficult time with other limits.
Just like adults! The point in my estimation is that you don't dump the limits just because they are harder for some people to learn.
I always say that I was the perfect parent before I had kids, a decent parent when I had one child and didn't know a thing by the time the second came a long.
My two children are extremely different, and event the way I punish them has to be different. I do a LOT more praying now than I used to, which can only be a good thing.