<< he was taught by AA to blame everyone in his life that he's an alcoholic rather than to take responsibility for it himself.
Not.
If he thinks that way, it was not because he was "taught by AA." >>
Nor by the apprropriated and diluted "steps" you listed. Here are AA's:
The 12 Suggested Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous
We admitted we were powerless over alcohol -- that our lives had become unmanageable.
Came to believe that a Power greater than ourselves could restore us to sanity.
Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood HIM.
Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of ourselves.
Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another human being the exact nature of our wrongs.
Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character.
Humbly asked HIM to remove our shortcomings.
Made a list of all persons we had harmed, and became willing to make amends to them all.
Made direct amends to such people wherever possible, except when to do so would injure them or others.
Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it.
Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God, as we understood HIM, praying only for knowledge of HIS will for us and the power to carry that out.
Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we tried to carry this message to alcoholics, and to practice these principles in all our affairs.
Whatever.
I have already conceded that my brother-in-law is/was/has been/probably will always be a liar; and that it was most likely his interpretation of AA teachings that made him come away blaming everybody but himself; and that I pretty much know about alcoholism, lived it and learned it on the receiving end, not as a drinker. I also stated that I don't believe AA is for everyone, as my husband quit on his own after 24 yrs. REad all my posts before pouncing please!